Ladies, get out of the way!
I remember one evening very early in our marriage, I was in the kitchen cooking dinner. Michelle had one of her friends visiting with us, and we were all chatting together.
I can’t remember what I was cooking, but I do recall at one point Michelle stepping in and correcting me on what I was doing. It was something like “don’t do it like that, do it this way”.
Quick as a flash her friend interjected, “Michelle what are you crazy!? Don’t get in the way of a man cooking in the kitchen, I would do anything to see my husband cooking in the kitchen”. With a smile on my face, I carried on without a word…it was a small victory, but it was mine.
Why was a man cooking dinner in the kitchen such a spectacle? For Michelle and I, it was normal for us to share the household duties from the very beginning of our marriage. We talked about the job list at home regularly – what needed to be done, and who would take which task on. Generally, cooking was shared half-half, with each of us electing to cook on particular nights.
Maybe for some men, cooking has become scary and intimidating. Those that can cook do it so well, that it seems like too hard a task to the novice. And then there’s the celebrity chefs, interestingly many of whom are men, who cook these amazing dishes and sell it as being all so easy.
Whatever the reasons, what we know is that despite most families being duel income households, women are still doing the majority of the domestic chores like cooking. This is neither fair nor sustainable. Things need to change, or else the strain will take an unhealthy toll on marriages, and in fact it already is.
It is becoming more and more important for couples to share domestic life. So let’s start with sharing the cooking of meals.